We caught up with some far-away couples and took off with their best tips. Karen and Adam are separated by an ocean—the Atlantic, to be precise.
Erin and Shane* met as undergrads in Canada but eventually went on to different grad schools. Karen studies in Europe while Adam remains in Canada and they prioritize spending time with each other as much as possible.
“During our campaign, it was becoming increasingly clear that we simply did not have the experience and knowledge about the intricacies of labor law,” the group’s website said.
Dating is at best another extracurricular, #6 or #7 down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.
I’ve been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided (which sounds so much better than ‘socially awkward’, don’t you think? All they need is a little tune-up, or a proper dating textbook to get them going — plus a little practice.
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around living in the same building and sharing meals with them every day. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be ‘well-rounded.’ Well, you’re a talented little bugger. At the same time, there’s an opportunity cost associated with achievement.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1000 times worse once they’re expelled from the warm womb of alma mater. On the other hand, it makes screw it up (or a computer). Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things — like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.