You’re tempted to breach the boundaries of your relationship—go from pals who eat takeout and watch Netflix to pals who eat takeout, watch Netflix, then have sex on the couch.Problem is, your carefree lady friend who seemed like the perfect sex partner could be totally chill about the whole situation, start sleeping with someone else, then you find yourself irrationally jealous and wanting her to be much, much more than a casual romp.And while I don’t trust college boys to teach any life lessons in platonic friendship, even science validates their claim that men will sleep with their friends.From this Psychology Today article: “In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Sapadin asked more than 150 professional men and women what they liked and disliked about their cross-sex friendships. Men, on the other hand, more frequently replied that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and that it could even deepen a friendship.Yes, we are concerned with our careers and personal interests, but more than anything else, it is the relationships in our lives that matter most, particularly the ones we have with our girlfriends.
While men identify their worth by how well they perform at work, women define themselves by the relationships they hold most dear.
However, someone is bound to catch feelings eventually. You can't choose to be friends with benefits early on in a relationship, because neither party knows each other well enough to be 100% comfortable and committed with the expectations." - Vanessa L.
Sex creates attachment—thank you brain chemicals.” - Alexa P. "I think friends with benefits is good while it lasts, but it definitely has an expiration date. "In the beginning it can work but once it happens more than a few times and it becomes consistent, someone will fall for the other." - Jane R.
What they reported liking most was talking and relating to women—something they can’t do with their buddies.
Meanwhile, women rated their same-sex friendships higher on all these counts.